With My Brilliant Friend in (Meers/Frei)burg

Despite having traveled quite a bit since my last post (a return to Kyrgyzstan in spring, a week in Moscow, a train journey from Tbilisi to Baku, more trains across Kazakhstan, a sleepless four days in Berlin, yet another train far north of Moscow to the Republic of Karelia), Prekrasno has laid dormant. Compared with academic deadlines (conferences! final papers!) and recurring submissions to The Diplomat, it feels frivolous to sit down and recount travel stories.

I want to dust off the old travel blog both to record a visit to southern Germany, but also to pay homage to Rebecca, a dear friend who hosted me (and responded with “YES AND” to a joke about roadtripping to Liechtenstein, a doubly-landlocked microstate nudged between Switzerland and Austria just south of Lake Constance). I can’t quite process that I met Rebecca in 2010; as of tomorrow, a ten-year period (!!). She has featured in many of the adventures I recorded here on Prekrasno — a roadtrip through the American South after we graduated from college, reading fortunes in coffee grounds, walking past a UN-sanctioned buffer zone to the Turkish Republic of Northern Cyprus, a bizarre ferry ride to get out of Northern Cyprus, swimming in a pool at the top of a 30-story building in Kuala Lumpur — (and doubtlessly has been front in center in many stories that were not shared here).

What a treat it was to spend two weeks in Germany, most of it spent laughing/making weird faces/eating cheese or chocolate or nutty bread next to such a good and wise and funny person. The weather was not on our side, but we still managed to visit Freiburg’s outdoor markets, climb to the top of its cathedral (home to a gargoyle that sticks its butt out rather than grimaces to scare passerby/release water from the roof), cram a few hours of work in the massive library, and glimpse a meteor from a balcony. I left Rebecca for a few days to visit Berlin, but when I got back we packed up for a 48-road trip to Liechtenstein and Lake Constance.

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All the travel blogs I looked at for tips on how to visit Liechtenstein recommended taking the train from Zurich; renting a car and driving from Freiburg turned out to cost something similar. As a car-averse person, I’m proud to say I drove us on non-toll backroads through Germany, Switzerland, and Liechtenstein (Rebecca’s constant assurances that I was doing so well made me question whether indeed I was doing well, but, we got from A to B with no scratches or fines). In Vaduz, we paid 3 Swiss Francs to get our passports stamped and paid nothing to climb a small mountain to see Vaduz Castle, where Liechtenstein’s princely family lives. For some strange reason they wouldn’t let us inside for tea with the family, but the weather did finally cooperate and clouds blew away to reveal just how high the Alps reach. We visited Liechtenstein on winter solstice, and with such little daylight we didn’t visit any of the museums in Vaduz’s center, instead driving on to Balzers to check out a cathedral and castle. From there, we passed through Austria and entered back into Germany to a cottage near Meersburg.

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It’s almost upsetting how cute Meersburg was — vineyards on the coast of Lake Constance, pastel buildings, tiny doors, a man dressed in medieval-looking clothing guarding the entrance to the old castle (the Meersburg castle is the oldest continuously inhabited castle in Germany; though I think this is a questionable superlative because a new castle was built for people to move into. But! I digress), and a giftshop with the most wackily arranged mannequins I’ve ever seen. The sun peeked out for an hour as we walked around Old Town; after popping in to the Wine Museum, though, it started drizzling again — our cue to head out. 

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From there we drove to the Ravennaschlucht Christmas market — a collection of wooden stalls selling raclette-covered potatoes, flammkuchen (a pizza-like flatbread from the area along the southwestern French-German border), hot chocolate, and tiny bottles of local gin. The weather was not exactly on our side, but we managed to take a walk in the forest, admire cuckoo clocks, and eat the tastiest pulled pork sandwich (topped with sauerkraut) I’ve had in years. We rolled back in to Freiburg late at night, parked the rental car in its platz, and walked back to Rebecca’s apartment.

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This is a terrible travelogue in the sense of lacking any restaurant recommendations (we didn’t go out to eat in Liechtenstein because of the cost + the daylight limitations; even in Freiburg we didn’t eat out much and opted instead to cook at home or eat snacks from the Christmas market) or unique Christmas market goodies other than rosé gluhwein.

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Last month, I finally got around to watching the HBO adaptation of Elena Ferrante’s Neapolitan novels, a story of two remarkable girls who grow up near Naples. This paragraph from a review in the New Yorker struck me:

 

Why have a playdate when you could have a sleepover? Why have a sleepover that lasts one night when you could have a sleepover that lasts three, or a week? That might sound obsessive, or borderline erotic, and it is: childhood friendships of the kind I’m describing are like the primordial soup of human relationships, messy and unformed but with the raw parts to make anything that might come after. Such friends are like family (you need, or hate, or cannot forsake them) and a beloved (you are so jealous, so sensitive to their slights!) and an alternative (better?) self, squashed into one.

 

This trip felt like an indulgence in the impulse to keep going that the author expresses here — two weeks of sipping on primordial friendship soup that’s been simmering on the stove for a decade. I went into 2019 with my friend, and what a treat to say goodbye to 2019 with her as well. This year we saw each other in New York, Baku, Rhode Island, and Germany — who knows where I’ll see her in 2020?

No bad day can stay that way

Tuesday was one of those terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days that sneak up on a lady every once in a while. I woke up late, I’m stuck with a cough that won’t leave me alone, my little house is freezing, the streets are covered in an inch of ice that threatens my life every time I step outside, etc. etc. After dragging myself through a few lectures – the last of the semester – and getting home, all I wanted to do was wallow under a pile of blankets with the space heater blowing on my face and sleep Tuesday away. My 9-year old host brother Salman banged on my door and ruined that dream with an invitation to a cafe with the family for a “pre-Holiday dinner.” Crawling out of bed turned out to be the best decision of the day, no matter how appealing another episode of Sherlock seemed.

I could barely believe it when we rolled up to Club Mix, famous among Jalal-Abad volunteers as a den of debauchery. Eight of us fell out of the car, made to seat 5, and we made our way into a private dining room. 17-year old Nurbolot couldn’t get the karaoke program working fast enough; my host mom Nazgul, who, as it turns out, has a beautiful voice, was really excited to jam. My host dad Kubanych, whose voice doesn’t exactly rival his wife’s, was also enthusiastic to sing a Kyrgyz tune or two. The teenage boys looked up from their phones after a while, and they also got in on the karaoke fun (I tried to forget all the Russian I know while my 17-year old host brother and host dad sang a song called “Naked”).

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No karaoke session is complete without a rendition of Celine Dion’s My Heart Will Go On. Anyone who knew me in the late 90s was statistically forced to listen to me sing this song at least once a day (thanks/sorry, again, GGP). Anyone who knows me today has statistically heard me sing it, as well, for what it’s worth. Even with a sore throat and needing to stop between verses to cough, I managed to hold my own with Nazgul on this song, a Stevie Wonder classic, and some catchy Soviet tunes I had heard before.
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After a few rounds of sushi (yes, we have sushi in the world’s most landlocked country; no, I prefer not to think about where the fish comes from) and steak, the family packed back into the car to admire the New Years decorations downtown. Don’t be fooled…that may look like a Christmas tree and Santa Claus, but ask any Kyrgyz person, and they’ll tell you that it’s actually a New Years tree and Ayaz Ata/Ded Moroz (Old Man Frost). Semantics aside, I had a lovely time wandering around the square with my host siblings – watching the younger boys throw darts at balloons, taking in all the lights, and posing for a pic with Santa/Ded Moroz.
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From left to right: 5-year old Barsbek, host dad Kubanych, 9-year old Salman, 14-year old Baku, host mom Nazgul, 9-month old Aliya, 17-year old Nurbolot, and yours truly


To finish off the night, I posed for a pic with my host family. These people are usually my “day makers,” whether it be a warm and enlightening conversation with Nazgul, cracking a joke with Kubanych, playing silly games with the younger boys, bonding over pop music with the older boys, or just spending 30 seconds looking at Aliya – I love my host family to death, and I’m so thankful for the opportunity to live with and learn from them.

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Winter is Here

Overnight, my beautiful Jalal-Abad – a city I thought was immune from winter – transformed from a sunny, warm fortress of good weather to an icy hellscape. As a Midwesterner, I’m no stranger to winter. But winter in Minnesota, where experiencing the elements basically involves running between the house to the car and where one is safe from the cold in a well-insulated and consistently-heated home, is an entirely different ball game than winter in Kyrgyzstan.

There’s a special word in Kyrgyz for the time of year when it’s coldest: чилде/cheelde, which sounds eerily similar to chilly. And it’s coooooold (but could be colder, if I lived higher up in the mountains or further north). I live in a compound, separate from the main house. All I’ve got to heat the place is a little space heater that looks like Wall-E. It was enough to survive November, but I’ve spent a few nights in December huddled in my sleeping bag and under two or three heavy blankets with the wind blowing on my face to keep warm. Today, my host mom told me that the pipes have frozen and we no longer have water in the bathroom, and it’s likely we’ll lose water in the kitchen this week. So long, indoor shower, we had a good run. Walking around the city, I’ve noticed people dump sand or dirt on snow and ice to make it easier to walk on — a lot different from the heavy bags of salt spilled on sidewalks to melt ice. Interacting with cars has been spookier than usual: I take a shared taxi to work every morning, and the drivers seem not to notice that the roads are icy and slippery as they speed toward stoplights; intersections in general are dangerous, but I’m even more freaked out that I’ll trip and fall while crossing the street and a car or marshrutka won’t notice me.

So, winter, ugh, right? Not really – the snow is beautiful, and it’s a treat to watch kids throw snowballs, pull each other on sleds, and slide around on the sidewalk. Plus, winter’s a lot easier to handle when I can daydream of a three-week vacation in Malaysia and Thailand I’m planning for January… In the meantime, I’ll be wrapped up in my trusty poncho and new felt slippers to keep warm.

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View of my compound from the middle of our yard

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The main intersection of Jalal-Abad City

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“Be careful, ice will fall on your head”

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